Disappointed in a Spouse
*This originally appeared as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times" Dear Elisheva, I’m struggling with something affecting my marriage,...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 1, 20227 min read
"We feel more like roommates than spouses"
This was originally published as a column in the Five Towns Jewish Times Dear Elisheva, My husband and I had discussed this when we were...
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Elisheva Liss
May 8, 20222 min read
An Intimacy Dilemma
The following is a conversation that comes up a lot with my couples in therapy: Me: So what would you say are the challenges you're...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 7, 20214 min read
Vacation Altercations
Atara and Azriel are trying to plan a vacation. For the first time since they had kids, they have a chance to get away just the two of...
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Elisheva Liss
Jul 3, 20213 min read
"If You Really Loved Me...
“Do you know what it’s like to live with someone for six years and not even once have them initiate physical intimacy?” he asks. “Well,...
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Elisheva Liss
Apr 21, 20212 min read
Why Saying: "Divorce is not an Option" Can Actually Hurt Marriages
Were you taught to believe that “divorce” is a curse word? That we don’t even say the “d” word? When I was a young, idealistic grad...
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Elisheva Liss
Mar 8, 20215 min read
“Why Won’t My Wife Dress Up for Me?”
Some men say it with embarrassment, others with indignance or frustration, and still others in defeat: “I’m not trying to be demanding or...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 11, 20205 min read
"My Husband's 'Zera L'vatala' Will Be My Fault"
“I was taught that my husband’s purity and holiness are basically my responsibility. As long as we can ‘be together,’ that saves him from...
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Elisheva Liss
Dec 2, 20202 min read
"How Often Are You Supposed to 'Be Intimate'?"
Have you ever wondered how often people have sex? (I purposely used the nebulously awkward euphemism “be intimate” in the title because...
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Elisheva Liss
Oct 29, 20203 min read
Is it Possible to Create Attraction Where There is None?
For so many couples, this is their million-dollar question. Hope for their relationship, for their future, hinges on the answer....
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Elisheva Liss
Oct 18, 20202 min read
Separation Is Not Always "Step One to a Divorce"
Couples therapy is intense work. Back in grad school, I had a professor say: “We’re not in the business of saving marriages. We’re in the...
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Elisheva Liss
Aug 11, 20204 min read
How Do I Get My Partner to Come to Therapy?
Do you want to work on your relationship in therapy, but have a partner who just doesn’t want to go? Well, you’re not alone. This is a...
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Elisheva Liss
Jul 3, 20204 min read
“I Used to Rape My Wife”
Trigger warning: this may be difficult to read for survivors of trauma. Proceed with caution: Gittel and Shuey have been married for...
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Elisheva Liss
Jun 3, 20205 min read
What If You Cheated on Your Spouse?
An Infidelity Dilemma The following story was shared with me by an acquaintance who: Is not a therapy client of mine Specifically asked...
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